One thing at a time. Right now, it’s breakfast.


Life has taken some interesting turns in the last couple of months, and I am feeling the stress of it.

For those of you who have been reading my blog for awhile, you will recall that I have survived 100% of my stressful situations thus far. And so have you, by the way. ☺️

At this point in my life, I’m still learning coping strategies. Today, after stewing on a new and particularly painful issue, I decided that all I can do is deal with what’s right in front of me.

That thing is breakfast. After coffee, of course. ☕️😁

After sipping down two delicious, hot cups of coffee, I woke up The Flirt and let him know I was putting on the bacon.

Once the bacon was done, I poured off the extra grease and threw in some onions and leftover herb-roasted potatoes.

I fried that up and added scrambled eggs. That along with a well buttered piece of toast and crunchy bacon, and it’s a great start to our morning.

For those minutes it took me to make breakfast this morning, I allowed myself to quit playing chess in my head about the awful things going on in life right now.

Sometimes a small respite from my overactive mind is just the thing. And, I’ve learned to allow myself to have that. After all, the world can’t be saved in the time it takes to make breakfast. Right?

Wishing you all a very relaxing Sunday morning. Blessings all!

Stalking is evil – help me boost the signal


I have a friend who lives in another state, who has been struggling with a stalker.

She hasn’t spoken about it much since last year when she asked her Facebook friends to make sure to change their passwords, so her stalker couldn’t hack into and use one of our accounts to get to her. Yesterday she posted an update that her stalker had been incarcerated on another charge.

Today, she posted that even though her stalker had been put away for the time being, she felt like she was experiencing some PTSD. She didn’t say as much, but I took away from the post that she had expected to feel some measure of relief at her stalker having been apprehended, but then didn’t.

Her mental and emotional exhaustion was evident. She has been dealing with this stalker for a very long time, and I’m sure she is convinced that he will be released at some point to go back to his stalking habits.

This is not acceptable.

A person should never have to go buy a gun and get a concealed carry permit because at any time their stalker could pop out and follow them home. They absolutely should have the freedom to do so, if they wish, but shouldn’t have to be driven to it because restraining orders are ineffective.

All people should be afforded life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness as a matter of course and the Constitution, but some don’t have that very basic right because stalking isn’t taken seriously. The burden of extraordinary proof is put on the victim, while their stalker remains unencumbered. Laws from state to state vary, and this inconsistency doesn’t help.

A person, of any gender, should never have live in fear from another person who just won’t take no for an answer.

In reading my friend’s post, I was made keenly aware that there isn’t anything really much I can do to help. The only thing I can do is listen, and give support as I can.

Or, maybe there is some small thing I can do after all.

I can boost the signal.

I certainly can get the word out to as many people as I can about this very awful human affliction, which largely goes uncorrected. Here are a few ideas, some are my thoughts and some paraphrased from others.

1. As a mother, I can tell you one of the most important things I taught my boys is that no means no. Teach your children, other children in your family, neighbor kids, or any other kids you come in contact with that no means no, and that’s a boundary that doesn’t get pushed.

2. You may have noticed that in the last paragraph I spoke about teaching children in general about boundaries. That’s right, people of all genders get stalked. If you hear talk or notice stalking behaviors coming from anyone you know, let them know that’s wrong and to stop it. If we suspect it’s happening and do nothing, that’s wrong. You can read in more detail about national statistics on stalking in the United States here. It’s an eye opening read.

3. If someone discloses to you that they feel they are being stalked, never downplay their feelings. This may be especially tempting if you know the stalker as well. If someone feels they are being stalked, they are being stalked. End of story.

4. Some stalkers may be mentally ill. That isn’t an excuse, and they shouldn’t be allowed to continue with that behavior. If you know someone who is stalking due to mental illness, help them stop, whether it is getting the medical help they need, or letting authorities know that this person has become a danger to another person. If you know it’s a problem and you don’t make an effort to make it stop, that’s wrong.

I’m sure there are more things that can be done by people who know someone who is being stalked, but those are the ones that come off the top of my mind.

I was stalked once but it was resolved, and I haven’t been bothered by that guy in 30 years. Lots of folks who get stalked can’t shake their pursuers, and it’s frightening. Some people keep getting stalked until they are murdered or their stalker dies. Can you imagine living in fear like that all the time, never feeling safe?

If you are being stalked, get help. Don’t stop asking for help, whether it is from the law, or from family and friends.

If, God forbid, you are stalking someone, knock that shit off right freaking now. RIGHT NOW. No means no.

Faithful Readers, I don’t ask for much, for anything really. However, today am going to ask that you take this very earnestly written post to heart, and share it. Add to it if you are so inclined, but share it please.

Help me boost the signal and shine a light on this very dark corner in our society. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Blessings all. ❤️

A little bit of moisture goes a long way


Today we finally got some rain.

It’s not just any rain, though. This is a gentle soaking rain that the ground is slurping up as quickly as it hits the ground.

The smell of the rain is fabulous. We needed this!

Tomorrow the temperature will drop and we will have two days with some snow. Moisture is moisture, and I won’t complain because we just need it.

The good news is that the weather is going to warm up again, and the grass will finish greening up, and the trees will leaf out.

Spring has finally sprung!

The annual announcement: “Get out while you can!”


I’ve been a busy beaver today, doing laundry and housework. Part of that is to change the sheets, and remake the spare bed.

The spare sheets and blanket were washed and dried, but I didn’t get a chance to put them back on the bed, so I left them in a laundry basket next to the dryer.

Today, being Saturday, is a good day to get some of that stuff done, so I brought that basket upstairs and put the sheets back on the bed without incident. I pulled the blanket out of the basket and began to lay it out flat on the bed, and then it crawled out from the blanket before I even had a chance to pull it completely straight.

Ahhh! Nasty spider thought it was a good idea to make her home in my laundry.

<<<violent shiver!>>>

Nope! Not on my watch. I hate spiders. I know that it is an irrational fear, but arachnophobia is what it is, and I won’t tolerate spiders in my house.

I immediately balled that blanket up around the spider and took it outside to give it a good shake. It’s hard to do while trying not to get the spider on you at the same time. I must have looked hilarious standing on my front porch, shaking that blanket by my fingertips, then gingerly looking through whole thing to make sure it was gone.

Argh… now I have the itchy-crawlies! Yuck…

I realized that it is time for the Annual Announcement to any spider living in my house, most especially the basement. This is something I have done every year since I moved into this house 21 years ago. I stand at the top of the stairs and shout, to any spider to is smart enough to pay attention, that it is time to get out. “Spring is here ladies, and if I find you I will kill you. Get out while you can!”

Yes, I really do make that announcement to the spiders in my basement every single year, without fail. I will say that I am pretty careful to not do it when others are around. I know I’m not crazy, but I certainly don’t want others to form an opinion to the contrary.

So, shaking that blanket out didn’t satisfy my need to make sure the spider was gone, so it’s going back through the washer and dryer today, in as hot a temperature as I can get my washer and dryer to go. It had a chance to escape, and if it didn’t take that opportunity, oh well. 🤷‍♀️

To be honest, I’m having a tough time wanting to go back downstairs, but I’ll just have to screw up my courage and do it.

When my boys were teenagers, I never wanted them to see me fearful of something so small, so I had to adapt and I overcome my instinctual need to get up on a chair and holler for someone to come kill the spider on the floor. I had to develop a mentality of being in charge of myself and my space, and so when confronted by a spider in my home, I would shout, “Die! Die! Die!”, and start whacking said offender with anything I had available at hand.

I really didn’t fool them, though. My boys think it’s funny to tag me on pictures of big hairy spiders on Facebook. They think they are being funny.

Riiiiiight….

Having made this year’s announcement, I need to suck it up and get back downstairs to get the next load of laundry in. I just might turn on all the lights and whack anything that moves.

Wish me luck!

The joys of an empty coffee shop


This morning I had to get up early to have blood drawn, so I made sure to get there as early as I could to make time for coffee before work.

To my delight I got done quickly, and had plenty of time to go inside and sit down at a favorite coffee shop, Broadway Bean & Bagel.

It’s such a treat to hang out in a coffee shop, and even better when there’s nobody else around, besides you and the baristas.

Everything bagel with cucumber dill cream cheese, and a coconut mocha. Yum!

It’s so nice to sip coffee and not have to hear much other than the radio, and the baristas bantering behind the counter. Sure, I could sip coffee at home, or in my car, but it is nice to get out and go somewhere else for a change. I get tired of drive throughs.

I don’t often get up early and do something for myself. I’m sure that there are more nutritious ways to treat myself, and it gets me to thinking that I need to get back to a routine of getting up to exercise and have coffee before work. I did that some years ago, and I don’t remember why I got out of the habit. it is easily fixed, and I just need to do it.

The light is coming back, and soon it will be light enough to go to for a walk before work again. I’m looking forward to that.

Bagel is done, and now it’s time to take my coffee and get to work. just in time for another person to come in. I’ll leave the shop all to them, and hope they enjoyed it as much as I did.

Wishing you all a great start to your day! Blessings all!

Dinner and a drive through a dry landscape


Tonight The Flirt came home after work and declared that we should go get supper at Five Guys.

Well, who am I to argue with a good idea like that?! I didn’t feel like cooking tonight anyway.

So, Five Guys didn’t fail us. I always order a small burger “all ways” for the toppings. So good! We always order a small fry and share it, because there are just too many for each of us to order our own.

After supper we went for a drive in the country, and it was lovely and sad all at the same time. How does that work? Well, the North Dakota countryside is always beautiful, no matter the season, and always makes for a lovely drive.

It was sad because we are experiencing drought, and where there should be ponds and ditches full of snowmelt there’s nothing but dried up vegetation.

Everyone else in the country, especially Texas, got our weather this year. We got hardly any snow, so there wasn’t any moisture to soak into the ground right away. We’ve had a little bit of rain, but not enough to matter. So, it was a little sad to see the countryside so completely dried out.

The good news is that there was quite a bit of wildlife to see. Not only did we see a lot of Canada geese, but there were lots of pheasants, and quite a few turkeys.

A couple of hen turkeys

With any luck the next time we go for a drive it will be after a good rain, and everything will be much greener.

Here’s wishing you all a good supper and hoping you can take a nice drive in the country. Blessings all!

The light can’t come back fast enough


Living on the High Plains has its charms, and no matter where I go in life this will always be home.

However, living so far away from the equator does have its drawbacks. The number one issue I have is that it’s so dark for so long.

Currently, I am waiting for the sun to rise at an earlier time of day so I can go walking before work. We aren’t there yet, but it’s almost there. I’m betting in a few more weeks the light will be good enough that I can get out of the house by 6am and get a good walk in before I have to get ready for work.

It’s so hard to be patient, though!

The good news is that the sunrise comes at a time when I can see it, and that’s a lovely thing.

Isn’t it interesting how things balance out? That is, if you are willing to look for the good in life where you can.

Blessings all!

Decluttering, minimizing, and projects…oh my!


Recently, I joined a decluttering and minimizing group. They have been a tremendous help to me in that not only is it nice to feel not alone in my efforts to simplify my life, but people share some really great tips and tricks. I have also been able to share some ideas that have worked for me.

It’s astonishing how quickly I’ve been able to find a sense of community in a group I just joined last week. In fact, I’ve been inspired to get back on the decluttering horse, and have been successful in clearing out a few packed corners in my house.

Yesterday it was a book shelf. Today it will be some cube organizers that have been sitting in my living room, waiting for my spare room to get renovated. They have been a convenient place to put crap I haven’t had the time or will to deal with. Most especially pictures that need hanging up.

For those of you Faithful Readers who’ve been keeping up with my blog for awhile, you’ll recall that I painted my living room a couple of years ago. I still have not hung up the pictures yet. I have this strange fear that I will screw something up if I try to hang them myself.

Well, I just need to bite the bullet and get it done, damn the consequences!

Boy do I know how to live like a rebel, eh? LOL

Redoing the spare room is one of the many projects on the slate for this Spring. On the list are:

👉Repaint, reorganize, and declutter the spare room.

👉My china cupboard needs to be cleaned out and reorganized.

👉Repaint the bathroom, add new shelves and new decor, and recaulk the tub.

👉Paint and reorganize the pantry.

👉Prep the back yard for a new, bigger shed. We will then need to get rid of the old, small, crappy shed once the new one is delivered.

👉Once the old shed is gone, new compost bins will be built, and the ground will be prepared for a vegetable garden. The fence will also be repaired.

That’s quite a lot to get done this Spring, but I have some PTO to burn, so I will take time off from work to get the painting done. I can paint both rooms at the same time, so that will be fairly easy to knock out.

I feel fairly convinced this is all doable in the next couple of months, now I just need to keep a head of steam underneath me.

Now to go finish the laundry, and get started on the house work for the day. At some point, later on, the cube shelves will get cleared out and the pictures hung up. it’s going to be a good day!

Blessings all!

Ok, so this time supper is ugly


Good grief, Faithful Readers. This time, I mangled supper.

I’m getting really tired of the same old recipes, so I’m stepping out of my comfort zone looking for recipes that easy and tasty.

I happened upon one on Facebook called “Chicken and Dumpling Casserole”. The picture, of course, looked amazing. I had most of the ingredients in my pantry, so what the heck?

So, I got busy in the kitchen putting this thing together. My first impression just making the recipe is that it uses too many bowls and is messy to make. But, if it ends up tasting good, it might be worth the effort.

By the time I have all the ingredients in the casserole dish and get it in the oven, I’m thinking this is just the ugliest hot mess I’ve seen in a long time. Fingers crossed that it comes out better than it went in!

Fast forward 40 minutes to when the timer goes off.

I opened the oven door, and the most delicious smell wafted up. I’m thinking there’s hope for this thing yet. And then I took a look at it. Ugh…soupy and gross!

The Flirt came into the kitchen when heated me uttering unladylike things, declaring supper a failure. He took a sniff and hard look and it, and dished up a bowl full. Unbelievably, he snarfed it down with wild abandon, and declared it delicious.

I couldn’t eat it the way it was, so I made some rice and ate it that way.

It was ok. Certainly nothing I will make again. That’s ok, it was worth a try.

So, what’s for supper at your house? Be brave and try something new. You might have better luck than I did tonight. Blessings all!

An Unusual Spring Day


Today was a rare March Day. Not only did I not have to wear a jacket to work this morning, but it was so nice The Flirt and I walked two miles after work today.

We went out to a place east of town where there are walking paths through a wooded area. It was so nice to get out and stretch my legs. Too much sitting at work has caused not only weight gain, but lots of stiffening up.

The unusual part of today’s beautiful weather is that by all right’s we should still be hips deep in snow.

It’s been so nice for so many days, the trees are starting to bud out. In March.

March!? I hope we don’t have a hard freeze between now and May.

To a lot of you that might not sound like any big deal, but to those of us living on the High Plains it’s a huge deal.

We suffer from cabin fever for being stuck inside so much, and being trussed up five ways to Sunday just to go outside in the winter. To be able to walk outside in a t-shirt is the best feeling. The high was 58 degrees today. It might not sound warm to people in the lot of the country, but up here on the High Plains it’s a heat wave!

It felt so fabulous to feel the sunshine on more of me than just my forehead sticking out over a mask.

Not only was it a beautiful day weather wise, but it was nice to walk in a beautiful place. I can’t wait to see what this walking trail looks like all leafed out and green. As it is, it is still beautiful, located near a River, amongst farms.

There’s still a bare sheen of ice on the river.

Here’s hoping you find yourself in great weather and beautiful surroundings. Blessings all!

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